Here’s how it works! I just had the three boys to start out with, so starting with the youngest, they each have a “night” of the week, Preston Tuesday, Cole Wednesday and Bryan Thursday…now with five kids I have Sun-Thursday designated at their “nights”.
This means that after everyone gets in bed, I spend an extra 15-45 minutes with my child on his/her “night.” We started this when my oldest son was about six because he had a lot of questions about being adopted (we have a pretty open adoption and they know about their birthmother).
Here are some ideas of what we do with our time together:
Sit together on the couch and just talk (we do this 90% of the time)
Read together, we usually take turns reading
We take funny pictures of each other…
Sometimes we go to the store if I have errands to run (and get a small treat)
(I have had some of my best talks with my kids while we drive)
Go to the gas station and get a hot chocolate or drink, Our favorite drink is steamed milk with a yummy flavoring.
Look up fun things on the internet, such as new books or toys they are interested in Help with homework (if it didn’t get finished earlier) In the summer we like to go outside and lie on the lawn and look at the stars and talk
Look up fun things on the internet, such as new books or toys they are interested in
Help with homework (if it didn’t get finished earlier)
In the summer we like to go outside and lie on the lawn and look at the stars and talk
Create a yummy snack to share (my kids love to cook!)
Around Christmas they help me shop and wrap presents for their siblings
Snuggle on the couch and read the comics
And anything else your kids like to do!
And NO, this isn’t always easy, some days I just want to get in bed, or go to bed at the same time as my spouse… but I have also designated Friday and Saturday nights as nights with my hubby (so he doesn’t miss out on alone time either!)