Excuse me, while I rant…
So, about a month ago, the hubs was pulled up to a job to work some finish carpentry magic on a home. While the employees were unloading the trailer, a drunk dude came meandering up to one of them. He asked for a cigarette. When the employee said he didn’t smoke and couldn’t take him to buy cigarettes (he asked), the dude wanted to speak to Dan, The Beard Man/my wonderful husband. He came up to Dan, who was in the garage, and after saying a bunch of nonsense that I won’t bore you with, asked for a cigarette. Dan said no and that he doesn’t smoke. So, the guy asked Dan to come outside the garage and talk. That didn’t make any sense, Dan was done talking to him and had to get back to work, so he told the guy “no,” turned his back on him and started to work again. The guy freaked out and…pulled out a gun, saying “you’re all gonna get it, anyway.” Great. So, luckily the dude takes his gun and walks back across the street…as opposed to shooting my husband in the back. But, across the street he stands there pointing the gun at all the construction workers. He then goes into his house (apparently, he lived across the street) and won’t come out. The SWAT team is called and there is a stand-off for several hours, until finally they find the guy, asleep. The end. You can read the slightly inaccurate version here in this news article.
A couple weeks ago, I was telling this story to a guy I know, and THIS is what he said…
“You should sue him! Press charges, I’m serious. Just have Dan take several days off work, say that he has been traumatized and sue him.”
I’m like, “Are you serious??”
He says, “Heck ya, I totally would, if it were me.”
He was serious. I couldn’t believe it. He really would take advantage of that guy, just because he was given the opportunity. Every ounce respect I had for him flew right out the window. Why would we sue that guy?? Dan wasn’t hurt. He’s not really traumatized and unable to work. The guys is obviously messed-up and did something totally dumb, should we kick him while he’s down?? Should he get in trouble? Yes. Should we take all of his money and ruin as much of his life as we can?? No. The punishment needs to fit the crime and common sense & kindness, on our part, needs to be there. What he did does not mean we deserve money. In fact, there are VERY FEW instances where people deserve money because they feel they were wronged. Part of being a human is being wronged, on occasion. Expect it and remember you’re not perfect too.
So, that brings me to my title, “Common Sense, Kindness, and Human Vultures.” How many of us have ever done something dumb? Raise your hand. You better ALL have your hands up. How many times could someone have taken advantage of your mistake, and didn’t?? Or, did they??
People do dumb things. People make mistakes. Don’t be a human vulture.
There is this story currently on the news, all over Utah, about this now-former policeman who used the city credit card to put gas in his car. Pretty darn dumb. But, he justified it by thinking about the times he used his personal vehicle for city issues…it was like he was reimbursing himself. Okay, I can understand the shady justification but, he should have gone through the proper channels to get reimbursed. Anyway, here’s what gets me. He is arrested in his own home, without warning, in front of his wife and kids. He is booked in the same jail that he has booked inmates, himself. And, he is plastered all over the news, as if he was some sick and twisted criminal. Now, the district attorney is going after him with full force. He is being charged with felonies, which could give him several years in prison and ruin his life. The guy is losing his job, his pension, his dignity. What he did was obviously wrong, but is this punishment fitting the crime?? I don’t know the exact number, but I he spent under fifty bucks on gas, that they can prove. You can’t tell me that deserves felony convictions and prison time…even if it was several hundred dollars. There are a lot worse people who need to be in prison, using our tax dollars. This policeman served diligently for 19 years, let’s keep things in perspective.
Now, let’s go over this…
Common Sense & Kindness – He should obviously be punished. Maybe he should resign and be slapped with a $1000 dollar fine, thus the city will be making money on the incident. It should have been handled quietly. For a dollar amount THAT small, none of us should even know about this story. It should have been handled by the department and that’s it. If we want to talk about wasting tax payer money, let’s discuss prosecuting someone…especially over something so minor. There were better ways to handle it. Nobody deserves to have their life ruined and be completely humiliated over a $50 dollar lapse in judgment. It’s nice to see that someone finally stood up for him, publicly…here. Cheers to the F.O.P.!
I’ll let you decide who the human vulture is.
One last story…a while back, a friend of mine was at work when someone accidentally drove the fork of their fork lift right through their trailer. The fork lift driver felt horrible and was telling my friend he would call his insurance and everything . This friend used his common sense and knew that this hole in his trailer wasn’t really affecting anything. It was located somewhere on the trailer where it wasn’t super obvious. It wasn’t going to let rain in, so he was kind enough to say, “Eh, no worries…be more careful, next time.” And, that’s how it should be! That’s not to say if someone crashes into your car, you don’t have them pay for it. But, when things are minor and really not that big of a deal…have a heart. Even when things ARE a big deal, still be considerate and ask yourself whether you really need to be compensated or if you’re just being a revengeful and/or greedy human vulture. It’s one thing to try and get compensated, but it’s another thing to try and get rich.
Doesn’t it seem like human vultures are everywhere?? It’s like they just sit and wait for you to say something politically incorrect, do something dumb, or just make your coffee too hot and they will pounce on you. And, as long as they benefit (under the guise of compensation, procedure, and lessons taught) they are willing to crucify you. It’s sick.
We should expect and “man-up” to the consequences when we make mistakes, but may we all be fortunate enough to not offend someone who has every intention of sticking -it-to-you, to benefit their pride or their pocketbook.
So, here’s my post, summed up: Treat others the way YOU would like to be treated. Pass it on.
The end. I’m done. Allow me to jump off my high horse.