- It often goes untreated. Every child whom cannot sit still or cannot pay attention does not have ADHD. But did you know as many as half of the kids with ADHD have either not been diagnosed or were not being treated properly? So what, you say? Failure to identify ADHD can launch the problem to the moon. Children who struggle through school untreated often have significant academic problems and severe self-esteem issues. Kids who are not treated and move into adolescence are at an increased risk for substance abuse, antisocial behavior, depression, and anxiety disorders. AFRAID YET? I was.
- ADHD is a disorder that belongs to the Soft Sciences of Psychology. It is difficult to diagnose. So it is all trial and error. There isn’t a “blood test” or physical screening that says, “You have it and you have it BAD.”
- It affects both genders. However, it is more apparent in boys than in girls. Girls tend to exhibit symptoms by spending more time daydreaming or chatting. They also fall into the inattentive rather than the Impulsive-Hyperactive Freak category.
- To medicate or not to medicate, that is the question? I am mixed on it. I had a friend whose three boys clearly had ADHD. My friend chose not to medicate and instead treated it with a strict diet. Their kids were still extreme in every way and I would say in short, the diet didn’t work.
My son, once he took his meds, it was like night and day. We have been tweaking his dosage for 1.5 years. Some “experts” will say to dope them up to your child’s threshold and then take them down a few steps. WE CHOSE NOT TO DO THAT. He acted doped up, his personality disappeared and I HATED IT. I cried my eyes out at the loss of a powerful and vibrant kid. So we give him the absolute minimum and still see results. And he is still super awesome without acting like a zombie. Another word about the street drugs my child is taking to treat his symptoms, if he DID NOT HAVE ADHD, the amphetamine would have the opposite effect on him and cause him to be even more hyper and less attentive.
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You MUST USE TEAMWORK with your doctor and your child’s teachers. Have a plan. We are not ashamed of our son. His teachers know his attention issues. They are extremely communicative about his behavior and progress in class. They also appreciate that we are treating him for his condition instead of leaving it in the hands of “his teachers” to deal with him. It isn’t their problem. I do not want his teachers spending all their time on him and taking away from other students. No one resents him or me and I feel like we are all on the same team. He also gets organizational and behavioral therapy at school. Medicine isn’t the only answer. “Medication increases children’s attention, but once you’ve got their attention, you have to teach them how to behave.” Dr. Resnick, Ph.D. psych professor at Randolph-Macon College, VA. We also meat with his Doctor every six months to reevaluate Gavin’s treatment and see how he is doing.
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The downside, Gavin has lost his appetite and is not gaining weight as he grows. He is one skinny kid. He is already a picky eater, but combine that with not having an appetite, he is skin and bones.
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This is a lifelong issue. Some children outgrow their symptoms. But 40 to 80 percent continue to have symptoms into adolescence and more than 50 percent into adulthood. Although as an adult, hyperactivity diminishes whereas inattention increases. It has also been shown to be genetic. So if your parents had it, you may have it or are a carrier for it to your offspring. Congratulations. And great news for me, parents of children with ADHD are 24 times more likely to have the condition than parents of non-ADHD kids. Jeb always suspected, now it is confirmed. I am not, however, popping pills like they do on Desperate Housewives, YET.
Most importantly friends, don’t live in a state of denial like I did. When the teachers and the school Ph.D. read the writing on the wall, I felt like a weight had lifted off my shoulders but that I had been kicked in the stomach at the same time. I didn’t want him taking street drugs but I didn’t want him growing up with a world where everything he did, he couldn’t control and was yelled at for it.
For more on my personal journey with ADHD and Gavin, read it here.
– Reb