I have been blessed to be a step-mother/mother to the GREATEST 9 kids on earth for almost 9 years (and also a darling son-in-law). We literally are a “his-hers-and-ours” family. Our family’s journey has been very difficult in some ways, but my husband and I have been determined to build a strong and happy family in spite of our situation. From the beginning it was very clear that I had to give it my best efforts if I was going to be able to help everyone heal. We have not been perfect at this. Much of creating a blended family is trial and error, but I am a firm believer that we can create our own happiness in just about any situation. The things I’m sharing are things I have learned along the way. I’ve talked to a lot of our kids as well and asked them what has helped. They had a lot to say, and it was fun to hear their perspective. When you read the following tips, remember that much of this is THEIR perspective.